We all aim at leading a life that is eternally happy. The way we approach it might need to be re-thought. When you think about doing something and as long as it doesn’t hurt anyone, the idea behind it is to be happy or feel better. And when you do that, it implies that you made a choice. When you make a choice, that means you are capable to making a choice and deciding for yourself and you have, by all means, the right to choose for yourself.

Suddenly, you hear – I let you do what you want because it makes you happier. This is not cute – it’s either a certain degree of Patriarchy or a highly misconstrued idea of Feminism or simply a matter of marking territories over a living being. Anything after “because” is meaningless. The key words here are “let you”. No one lets you. No one gets that control over you. And I’m referring to a reasonable adult who makes choices on a day to day basis. No matter the relationship, if an element is putting a leash around you and letting you go and do something that you decide, only to make you feel better, it is toxic. Toxicity or negativity builds around you because of elements who “let you”. These elements can be people or things that you attach to yourself as your identity.

Falling for something does not, at any point, amount to giving up on yourself. Sacrifices and adjustments are part of life but again they are your choices. If you choose not to sacrifice and be selfish, it is ok. If you choose to sacrifice and do something for someone else, that is ok too. It’s futile to judge yourself on the choices you make as long as you make it for yourself. You do not let anyone make that for you. More important is that you do not empower anyone to make you feel obliged for letting you make the choices you make.

It is no one’s right to interfere between the relationship you have with yourself, your goals, your aspirations or anything that matters to you. It is your responsibility and you are answerable to yourself. When I say that, I do not, by any means, imply you to deliberately do something to hurt anyone just because you want to. However, I strongly imply to work towards making you feel good about yourself, encourage an uninterrupted connection with your inner self. There is no harm in consulting and making a well-informed choice. It hampers you when the consultation becomes dictation or an obligation.

It’s your life, you choose to make mistakes, you choose to be successful, take responsibility, take control. The power is you.